There is a saying that “Falling in love is easy, staying in love that’s the challenge.” Each of us has a love language that appeals better than the others. One that makes us feel like we are loved the most. Our love language is most likely totally different from our partners. I know ours are. If we do not understand our partners love language, miscommunication can arouse. Once we can understand our partners love language and our own, we can enjoy and have a long-lasting relationship.
We were given The 5 Love Languages book about a month before we were married as a gift to keep our love strong. A few weeks after we got married we decided to make it a night time routine to read before going to bed. What we did was one of us would read while the other one would give that person reading a back massage, then after a few pages, we would switch. So what are the 5 Love Languages?
Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch
Words of Affirmation:
Verbal compliments or words of appreciation are a powerful way of expressing love. It is best to express these in positive, simple and straightforward statements.
- “You look sharp in that suit.”
- “Thank you for getting the babysitter lined up tonight. I want you to know I don’t take that for granted.”
- “I love you so much.
- “Can’t we ever have a decent meal around here?”
- “I can’t believe you did that, what were you thinking?”
Acts of Service:
An action that lets the other person know you are there for them.
- Changing the baby’s diaper
- Washing the dishes
- Paying the bills
- Picking up takeout
Gifts are visual symbols of love. These gifts don’t have to be the most expensive gift you can find, they can be simple and thoughtful.
- Leaving a box of chocolates
- Coming home with flowers
- A handwritten card.
This is one- on –one uninterrupted time.
- Washing dishes together
- Planning a night out without the kids
- Meeting him at the office for lunch
- Going on a walk
Touching doesn’t necessarily have be sexually; it is any non-verbal use of body language and touch to emphasize love.
- Holding hands
Don’t know what your love language is? Head over to the 5 Love Language website @ http://www.5lovelanguages.com and take their online quiz. Or better yet buy the book so you and your partner can grow your love HERE.